Child Support, unreasonable?

You are absolutely 110% correct for doing what you did. You shouldn't have to chase him down or beg him to take care of his children. It doesn't matter if he got re married 15 times after you guys divorced, the simple fact is he is a father and needs to take responsibility. The reason he is asking you to stop the proceedings is because he doesn't want child support payments taken directly out of his check. He wants to be in control of how much he gives you. The thing about child support that makes some men upset is you get money even when the kids don't physically need anything. Men like it better when they can just give you money when you need something rather than chipping in for food, clothes, and mortgage. Your kids don't eat for free, dress for free, or live for free. So I think you should proceed fully with the child support, he messed that up. Not you! You gave him a chance to do the right thing, and you should pat yourself on the back for not being the typical divorcee and asking for child support and spousal support right off the back. But I am sure you see now why these women do that because not all men can be trusted to do the right thing. Hope that helps.